First Date Awkwardness Part 2

Ah the date itself...

First he told me about his drumming. He had only been playing the drums for a few months, but he was really good and felt that God gave him that gift for the "benefit of his glory". *Sigh* I was hoping my questions about speaking in tongues would've been a clue that I didn't want to hear that, but I guess not. I don't have a problem with people believing that God has given them gifts (I believe it myself), but usually the people who just casually toss it around like that are the kind that think God is looking out for them when they find a penny on the sidewalk - it just gets a little ridiculous because it seems like there's no limit to what God has supposedly graced them with.

Next we start talking about family and his kid and he says "Yeah I can't wait til he's grown up and out of the house". I look and him and say " Isn't he 4?". He says yes, and then I said that he'd be regretting that when the kid is 12 and doesn't want to have anything to do with him. To make matters worse, he also said he hated being stuck as a volunteer in his son's Sunday school class. I was shocked because it basically sounded like he hated his son. You're kinda stuck with him for another 14 years - and this is really not something you should be telling me right off the bat! Later in the conversation he was telling me about how his sister got pregnant at 16 (Hello! SO not appropriate first date talk), but that he'd waited, but she turned out to be the wrong one. He said the woman didn't want to have anything to do with the kid after she'd had him. I said, "What, you mean like postpartum depression?" and he said he didn't know, but now she wanted back in his life. So I asked, "Is she on medication or did she get help?", and again he said he didn't know. Oh. My. God. This is the mother of your child and postpartum depression is a REAL THING! What do you mean you don't know?! Shouldn't you care?! Shouldn't your mother have clued you into this?! I was stunned by this display of ignorance.

He also used the pronouns "us" and "we", and I got the feeling he meant him and me - not his mother (who he is living with right now- though I can't hold that against him, as I just moved out again). He was talking about how some guy wanted to try and sell "US" Mona-vie. (It wasn't really that, but something comparable). Back up there bucko! Was he going to do it on this date, or are you already mapping out future plans?! Using those pronouns on a first date - not even a formal one, just lunch - what are you thinking?!

The thing that made me chuckle, but still irked me was this question - "What is the biggest city you've ever been to -- outside of Jacksonville?". He actually felt the need to rule Jacksonville out as a possibility - like I was some hick girl that had never been outside of Florida. So as nonchalantly as possible I said "Well, that would be between London (pause for effect), Paris (pause), or New York. " With each pause his eyes got wider, and was completely gobsmacked. I just shrugged it off and said "I like to travel. I think it's London by the way - last time I was there, I think there were 8 million people living there." I didn't even mention Montreal or Toronto (except maybe later in the conversation).

Eventually I had to go back to work, and a little while later he texted me and said "It was a pleasure having lunch with you - I hope to do it again soon." I was still vexed from lunch so I just replied "Yeah it was ok". He said "I just made an OK impression on you?". I replied that truthfully, yes, it was just ok - there was no click, no spark. He tried to make the excuse that he had been a different person before having a kid, but I wasn't really buying it. It was a nice enough lunch, but the conversation didn't come easy, and as you can see above, it was a bit of a train wreck. I felt bad, and then became depressed because he was really cute, and it hadn't worked out, but it made a great story, and I've gotten a god few laughs out of it since then.

He came in to the library not too long ago, dragging some unattractive girl around in a pathetic "See - I can get someone else" attempt to make me jealous. Oh - and random side story - the trucker guy I mentioned in the beginning of part 1 of this? I saw him at Marion St one night, but didn't say anything. He came in the library the next day though, and I asked him if he liked the show. He stared at me and gave the look of death for a minute before he replied "It was ok". Jeez! I cancelled a date on you almost 2 years ago and you're still going to act like a douche! I was doing it so you wouldn't have to pay for dinner when I was broke - esp. since I was pretty sure there would be no second date! Talk about holding a grudge!